Seriously, on the HF bands you do not need a preamp, and adding one will make things worse....
Start with a 14MHz BPF to remove as much of the out of band energy as you can, then a mixer (with diplexers on all ports to provide correct wideband termination is a nice touch, but you can add those once it works), then place your IF filter, then the IF amp...
Doing it that way you expose each stage to as little energy as possible, minimizing intermod products, you dont want the IF amp exposed to the whole 14MHz band if you can avoid it, which is why it goes after the main selectivity.
For TR switching, some combination of relays and diode switching is normal, have a look at the Picastar for an interesting bidirectional amplifier.
Do you have a copy of EMRFD?
Regards, Dan.