you should be able to move the output side of the opto-isolators directly to the gate drive control instead of putting in the extra switch step.
one of the wall warts powering the switches could also power the debounce
you could drive the opto-isolators in series rather than parallel
debounce can be accomplished by a 74121 non-retriggering one shot whose output goes to a toggle flip flop
a simple latching 3PST relay with some reasonable isolation between the sections would do also
NO position for ON, energized for off
your circuit does not have the ability to turn one or two load bank(s) off while the others on
do you need/want that capability?
what is the tolerance on "the very same instant"?
what is the isolation between GND_A, GND_B and GND_C etc?